Thursday, July 16, 2009

What Happened to the Girl I Married? (1)

True Story: When ShallowGal couldn't figure out an angle for her DC Metro Mom book club report and typed "What Happened to ", Google suggested that maybe the question I wanted to ask was "What happened to Seal's Face?"

An interesting question (2) but not the one I need answered. (3)


The author's wife designed this cover, a fact he doesn't mention in any of his 130 pages.

But maybe it should be. I guarantee that Seal never wonders what happened to the girl he married because even after 3 7/9 babies, that woman still has it going on.

PCSguy better not wonder it either. It's a totally bullshit question. It's been sixteen years, for heaven sakes, years filled with babies and sick parents and career changes. How on Earth could I possibly be the same person? Why would I even want to be?

A few years ago I added a line item to our budget: babysitting. PCSguy travels extensively and I was tired of missing book clubs and girls nights. I hate embezzling from my kids college funds but it sure as hell beat the other option of sitting home and whining about it.

I guess I just don't get women who sit home and wait for their husband's validation. Scratch that, I don't KNOW any women like that. Thank goodness. My friends and I may be busy and stressed and exhausted but we need a week in Tortola, not a few kind words at the end of the day.

And maybe someone to unload the dishwasher.

I guarantee that Heidi Klum isn't emptying the dishwasher in her house. That's why Seal is so sexy, lupus scarred face and all.


1) I always start humming that Katy Perry song, although last summer we changed the words to "I kissed a squirrel and I liked it" after our friend Ian hit a squirrel with his bike and ended up in the hospital for a month. We also sent him a stuffed squirrel. We're good friends like that.
2) According to Wikipedia, it's Lupus.
3) The questions I need answered today are 1) Does anyone still read this blog, cause after months of neglect I'm afraid to go check my stats 2) Where's my hairbrush and 3) will you pick a frickin personal tense for goodness sakes. I, She, SG. . . how many people write this blog? Or don't write this blog, would be more accurate.


The apparent ire in this run-on disaster of a post was inspired (4) by the book What Happened to the Girl I Married? by Michael Miller. Disclosure: SG received a free copy of this book.

4) SG puts the IRE in inspIREd in case you missed it the first time.

23 comments:

CJG said...

Warning: Shameless suckup coming:

The thing about my SG (her? she?) is that she gets better each year. I'm very happy with the current model.

The Zadge said...

New reader and glad to see you are back!!!

vuboq said...

OMG. Does CJG have a hot gay brother (or cousin or nephew)? Not only did he say he's happy with SG, he also called her a model! Just like Heidi!

SG is so lucky :-)

*smooches*

Bonggamom said...

You make a great point: people change, not that there's anything wrong with that. For every "what happened to the girl I married", there's an equal and opposite "what happened to the guy I married?".

Silicon Valley Diva said...

Definitely, marriage changes both partners. so true!

WkSocMom said...

Awesome book report :)

Kirsten said...

I still read... no matter how many personal tenses you use.

Linsey K / Krolik Legal said...

Love your point about validation. It SHOULD come from yourself, right? Not your man? Although...that's nice too. And a part of marriage and human connection. To feel appreciated.

Inna said...

I'm still reading... :)

And no, I don't need any validation either. I think if we all get to do more of what we love, we're more fun for everyone else.

mommygeekology said...

I might need a little teeny bit of validation, but I totally blame my mother for that. (I kid, I kid)

Glad to see you're back. Not always commenting, but always reading. Hi! (I totally used to be i.Mom.my, did I ever tell you I switched?)

I'm Julie said...

I'm still reading! I check you on my blog rounds every morning, and if there's nothing new, I figure Shallow Gal must still be on that vacation in Tortola with her Book Club. (Is that really a place? Or did you make it up to send me on a Wiki-scavenger hunt?)

And 11 comments before noon? C'mon - what more validation do you need?

Anna See said...

Great blog! Loved it. And I just read all about Seal and Heidi in some magazine I picked up at the pool. That is one spicy marriage. I am impressed.

melanie said...

i don't think there's anything wrong with a little validation...especially when it comes in the form of chocolate.

Anonymous said...

I'm all for self validation! Hear hear. This book makes it sound like a woman couldn't possibly be happy at home unless her husband made it so.
Power to the SAHMs!!!

Tami W. said...

We are still here....

Roxane said...

Amen! I don't know any men as insecure as this author (fearing his wife will leave him for someone who appreciates her more... really?!), and I don't get the need for validation/appreciation either... but maybe because my husband and I get along well and I DO feel like he knows how hard I work (as I know how hard HE works). My post on the book says much the same... we've both changed, but everybody does. STFW?

country mouse said...

17 comments! Have you lost weight?

; )

Tracey - Just Another Mommy Blog said...

Sounds like you loved the book just as much as I did. Ack.

Gayle said...

Still reading.

:)

the mama bird diaries said...

Babysitters are the secret to happiness.

Anonymous said...

I still read you! My hubs asked that same question. However he was refering to my williness to please and my waistline. sigh.... divorce is a bitch.

David said...

I totally don't read your blog. In fact I don't think I even know your blog exists. I also don't ever comment here.

See you Saturday!

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